Staff and Volunteers


Tom Desamero – Operations Director

Having served 11 years as a Hospital Corpsman in the Navy, Tom is very friendly and compassionate to all. He is currently working towards his nursing degree at the Montgomery County College and his husband works at Walter Reed National Military Center in the Department of Nursing. Tom’s dedication to our event coordination and outreach efforts are second to none and he is eager to work with all new and veteran members.



Development Director – OPEN

If interested in volunteering for this position, please contact one of the staff members listed on this page.


mpfc-small-icon-01 Communications Director – OPEN

If interested in volunteering for this position, please contact one of the staff members listed on this page.


Colin Bl303490_10150642864720939_1394628779_nevins – VFM Program Manager

Colin Blevins has served as a medic in the United States Army since 2009. He is currently attending the University of Colorado Denver for his undergraduate degree in Political Science. He became involved with the LGBT military community through OutServe, and served as the Chapter Leader for the greater New York City area before transition from active duty to the reserves. He has been volunteering for Military Partners and Families Coalition since December, 2013.


mpfc-small-icon-01 Volunteer Manager – OPEN

If interested in volunteering for this position, please contact one of the staff members listed on this page.


Anna Yap – Webmaster

Anna updates the MPFC website. She has a background in IT and is currently working on getting her Systems Engineering graduate degree. She recently received a military spouse scholarship from the National Military Family Association.



Pam Ellison

Pam is a member of the Hawaii Army National Guard and serves as the Recruiting and Retention Battalion Commander based out of Oahu, Hawaii. Her wife, Shanon Hartigan, is currently pursuing her Mediation Certificate through University of Hawaii to add to her law degree. Pam is part of our Media Team serving as a voice for MPFC.


Dr. Patrick Gleason

Patrick Gleason is a civilian, a social worker, and a member of the advisory board for the MPFC survey on the physical and mental health of families of LGBT members of the military. He has an MSS and a PhD in social work from Bryn Mawr College. In the course of his 35 years in practice he has worked extensively in direct service with clients, in administrative and
supervisory roles, and as a teacher on the undergraduate and graduate levels. For the past 20 years, he has been in private practice in Washington, DC, providing psychotherapy to individuals and couples, including members of LGBT community. In his private practice, he has worked with gay and Lesbian, as well as straight, members and veterans of the military, and their spouses.


Heather Lamb

Heather is an Air Force veteran and software engineer, living and working in the Washington, D.C. metro area. Her partner of six years is an active-duty Air Force officer stationed at Andrews Air Force Base, MD. They enjoy spending family time with their one year old son and five year old Siberian husky mix.


April Rodriguez

April is an Active Duty Navy 1st Class Petty Officer and our Co-Social Coordinator for the National Capital Region. Her spouse is also an Active Duty 1st Class Petty Officer in the Navy, currently stationed at Fort Meade, MD.


Tony Smith

Tony is our Veterans Outreach Coordinator for MPFC. He is an openly gay Air Force Veteran, community activist, Christian, and serial community volunteer supporting various military, veteran, social, cultural and many other LGBT organizations. He and his partner, Ryan, work in the travel industry and have the opportunity to spread our initiatives at cultural events across our Nation and overseas. Tony’s voice and knowledge are a critical part of our Veteran’s initiatives.


Xiomara Sosa

Xiomara is a clinical mental health – forensic counselor (scholar-practitioner); a mental health and wellness coach; and a nonprofit executive. She has over twenty years of experience in the nonprofit sector where she developed her skill and knowledge in creating and implementing programs in communities that target social welfare work. She is an Air Force Reserves and United States Army veteran. Her life-long love is a retired Iraq war veteran.


Kirsten Stoddard

Kirsten holds a B.A from the University of Virginia and J.D. from the University of Southern California. She has recently completed a federal judicial clerkship and is now working as an attorney for the federal government. Her partner of 6 years is an active duty Army officer. They live in Alexandria, VA.


Stephen Utley

On January 15, 2012, CPT Michael Holtz, USAR, and Stephen Utley took a step 24 years in the making – they exchanged vows before family and friends in a wedding ceremony in Worcester, MA. They met in college and have been partners since January 1988. Stephen supported Michael’s decision to enlist in 1997 and has been a regular participant in Family Readiness activities with the Reserves, including co-chairing an FRG with Michael’s mom during his 2003 Iraq deployment. Outside of their military lives, they reside in Arlington, VA, where Stephen is a public school teacher and Michael works for the Department of Energy.


Our MPFC Volunteer Team is growing! If you would like to be a member of the MPFC volunteer team please contact  We are military families supporting ALL military families.


MPFC values its volunteers and employees, and promotes a team environment that supports diversity and encourages creativity and innovation. It is the policy of the organization not to discriminate against any employee or applicant for employment because of age, race, religion, color, sex, disability, national origin, ancestry, marital status, gender identity, sexual orientation, or veteran status.