Faces of Our Families
MPFC created the “Faces of Our Families” project in order to showcase and share our military families with each other and the greater community. From beneath the cloak of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” emerged so many beautiful families who existed the whole time, but couldn’t be truly recognized and celebrated as they should be. Now is the time to share our families’ pictures and stories so that we can associate real faces and lives with the continued fight for full recognition and equality for all military families.
We look forward to showcasing a new MPFC family each month! Interested in participating along our wonderful families, please send requests to Meg at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Scott Pierson and Dan LaMotte
CW2 Scott Pierson is the Commander of the 133d Washington Army National Guard Band at Camp Murray in Tacoma, WA. He has served for 19 years as a military musician in the USMC, Air National Guard and assumed his current position in September 2007. Scott is currently working on his Doctorate in Conducting at the University of Wisconsin-Madison. Dan served in the Navy as an Aviation Electronics Technician Petty Officer Second Class from 2001 – 2006 in VQ-1, homeported out of Naval Air Station Whidbey Island. The couple met in July of 2008 and began completing each other’s sentences within the first five minutes. In the November 2012 election, Washington State voters affirmed marriage equality, and Scott and Dan were married on April 18th, 2013 by a Washington State Superior Court Justice. They plan to have their “official” wedding in June of 2014 after Scott finishes his Doctorate and the couple returns to Washington. Immediately following the repeal of DADT, Scott appointed Dan as the Lead Family Readiness Group Coordinator for his unit and two weeks later they attended the 96th Troop Command Ball together; overall, they have been welcomed with open arms by the Washington Army National Guard Family. In their spare time, Scott and Dan enjoy entertaining, volunteering, and exploring the great outdoors.
Tania Dunbar and Deborah Graham-Dunbar
Chief Warrant Officer 3 (Army) Tania Dunbar and Deborah Graham-Dunbar (Co-Founder of MPFC) met in 2010 on Facebook while Tania was deployed in Iraq with the 3rd Infantry Division. While on her two weeks of R&R leave, Tania and Deborah finally met and fell in love. They were married in May of 2011 in Washington DC, surrounded by friends from OutServe-SLDN, MPFC, and Knights Out.
They are currently stationed at Fort Bragg, NC where Tania works on Air Defense missile systems and Deborah pursues her Masters degree in Social Work. They have a son, Elijah, a daughter, Michelle, a four legged daughter, Savannah the Pit Bull, and 3 fish, which do not have names because they will not answer to them. Outside of work and school, Chief (as Tania is if often called) and Dee stay busy working on human rights issues both inside and outside of the LGBT community. Dee is very active in the church, and has a passion for advocacy and volunteer work as well as holds an advisory position with “You Are Strong! Center on Veterans Health and Human Services”. When the couple isn’t doing that, they are trying their hand at renovation projects, imitating what they are seeing on DIY TV ripping their home apart and putting it back together.
Family time is spent camping by the different lakes throughout NC, trips to the museum, spending time at the beach, finding different nature trails, fun art and science projects with the kids and Dee teaching the kids a little of her Jamaican culture (mainly the food) . The family, in a year or so, would like to add another little Dunbar (or two). Wish us luck as Elijah would like 8 more brothers and sisters, he likes the number 10 (we think he watches too much ‘Monk’).
Chris and Novia
Chris, Novia, and their 9-month-old son CJ live near Louisville, KY with their 2 dogs and 4 cats. It is certainly a full house for this Air Force family! Chris recently retired at the rank of Lieutenant Colonel, having served 28 years in the Air Force/Air National Guard and Novia, a Master Sargent, currently serves in the Air National Guard. Chris and Novia also both entered civil service, working for the Veterans Administration. In their very limited free time, Chris is a basketball official at the high school and collegiate levels and Novia trains for triathlons. The couple, having been together for 11 years, was elated to add to their family by adopting CJ this past year as he quickly became the light of their lives.
Mickey and Sarah
Mickey served in the U. S. Navy during the 1980’s and was discharged due to her sexual orientation. In turn, Mickey lobbied and volunteered on campaigns to overturn the Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell (DADT) policy, and most recently as a field organizer for marriage rights in Maryland. The couple lives in the Metro DC area where Mickey attends graduate school at George Washington University, majoring in Political Management in Advocacy Politics. Sarah works for a municipal agency in environmental testing. Together for over ten years, the married couple has a cat named Samantha “Sam” that runs their home and hearts.
Matthew and Ben
Although Matthew and Ben met in 2010 at the Servicemembers Legal Defense Network national dinner in Washington DC and became good friends, they were living in different parts of the country and their first date wasn’t until two years later when Matthew invited Ben as his date to the 2012 LGBT Pride Month Reception at the White House. Their already close friendship bloomed quickly into love, and Matthew proposed to Ben at the White House in December during a holiday tour with MPFC. The wedding will be this May in Seattle, Washington, where Ben is from and where marriage equality was passed in November. Matthew and Ben will transfer to Okinawa, Japan this summer.
Dan & Gary
LT Gary Ross exchanged vows with his partner of nearly 12 years, Dan Swezy, at the Moose Meadow Lodge in Duxbury, Vermont the moment “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” was repealed. Ross and Swezy recited their vows at the stroke of midnight on September 20, 2011, making them the first same-sex military couple to legally marry in the United States. The Rosses celebrated their first anniversary and the first anniversary of the repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” at a tribute to Admiral Mike Mullen hosted by Barbara Walters aboard the Intrepid Sea, Air & Space Museum in New York City on September 18, 2012.
Servicemembers Legal Defense Network filed landmark federal litigation on behalf of the Rosses on October 27th, 2011, suing the U.S. Attorney General, the Secretary of Defense, and the Secretary of Veterans Affairs. The case challenges the constitutionality of the so-called Defense of Marriage Act and seeks equal recognition, benefits, and family support for equal sacrifice and service in the U.S. Armed Forces.
LT Ross wrote about his experiences and on-going battle for “In the Shadow of Greatness.” The book is a unique anthology of essays and stories, providing a portrait of the first class to graduate from the Naval Academy following 9-11, into a new generation’s war.
The Rosses live in San Diego where LT Ross serves as Combat Systems Officer on U.S.S. ANCHORAGE (LPD 23). Dan works full-time as a Client Service Representative at Broadway Athletic and Swim Club and is actively involved in several Navy support organizations.
Pam & Shanon
‘I have spent the last 13 years helping my incredible wife, Shanon, raise our wonderful 25 year-old daughter, Ashleigh, and 23 year-old son, Michael. They have blessed us with two grandsons, Brayden (5) and Caleb (3), and a granddaughter, Leighton (2). We are definitely an Army family, as Michael is a Specialist in the Army National Guard and Shanon worked for the Guard as a civilian for 13 years. Our family has ‘served’ together through near 30 years of service and three deployments between Michael and myself – so, we know what a sacrifice being a military family can be. But through it all, we believe that no matter what, family comes first!
When not spending time with our family, Shanon is a State Director with Paxen Learning Corporation, providing educational programs and outreach services to under-privileged youth, and I serve as a Branch Chief in the Personnel Division of the Army National Guard in Arlington, Virginia. We know the challenges of raising a family without the support of military services (especially during deployments) prior to the repeal of DADT, and hope that more family support services and acceptance into Family Readiness Groups will continue to improve for our LBGT families. We are hopeful to also see the repeal of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) during our ‘tour of duty’ as a military family.’
-Pam, Active Duty Army
Kenton & Johnny
On July 6, 2012 during a breezy late afternoon in Honolulu, Hawaii, the former Kenton Chang and Army Major Johnny Wandasan tied the knot. They exchanged their vows in front of family and friends at the Hickam Officer’s Club, at Joint Base Pearl Harbor – Hickam.
Johnny is currently the regiment executive officer at a military training institute, and Kenton is a respiratory technician. Additionally, Kenton is the Family Readiness Group Key Leader for Johnny’s unit, and has been actively engaged in attending conferences and gathering resources to support the regiment’s Soldiers and families.
Together they are raising a two year old American pitbull, and the latest addition to their family, a rescued three year old miniature pitbull.
Darin & David
My Name is Darin and my husband, David, is a MSgt in the Air National Guard. David was active duty in the Army for many years before embarking on his current career path. We have been together for 19 years, and were finally able to get legally married last year after the repeal of DADT. I have been a flight attendant for 18 years, and we live in a rural town of about 500 people in the Pacific Northwest. We live on what once was a small farm, and hope to have chickens and goats after we retire.
Jodi & Jennifer
My partner’s name is MSgt Jennifer L Hamilton. She is a Senior Master Sergeant select stationed at Barksdale Air Force Base in Shreveport, LA and will sew on her new rank sometime in September. She will hit the 20 year mark with the USAF in November. Jen is originally from Monroe, Michigan and I am from Denver, Colorado. We met on line and have been together for 2 years this past January and were recently engaged in March! I have three children from a previous relationship, which Jen proudly assists me in parenting. We have an 18 year old daughter (19 in June) which will start her sophomore year of college at Northwestern State University this coming fall. We have a 17 year old son (18 in July) that will be graduating from High School this month and will be attending East Texas Baptist University in the fall and we have a 13 year old son (14 in July) that we, as of today (May 1) regained custody of and he now lives with Jen and I.
Michael & Stephen
On January 15, 2012, CPT Michael Holtz, USAR, and Stephen Utley took a step 24 years in themaking – they exchanged vows before family and friends in a wedding ceremony in Worcester, MA. They met in college and have been partners since January 1988. Stephen supported Michael’s decision to enlist in 1997 and has been a regular participant in Family Readiness activities with the Reserves, including co-chairing an FRG with Michael’s mom during his 2003 Iraq deployment. Outside of their military lives, they reside in Arlington, VA, where Stephen is a public school teacher and Michael works for the Department of Energy.
Kacey & Beka
Kacey and Beka on their 3rd cruise together. Kacey is from South GA and Beka is originally from Atlanta, GA. They met in college and have been together for 3 years. Beka is an Army Reservist who is currently on a year-long mission at Ft. Knox, KY. Kacey is a nurse, which works out great for the military lifestyle. Although they do not have any human kids yet, the couple has a 15-pound cat named Jynx and a 2-year-old Beagle named Delilah that they adopted. Kacey and Beka spend most of their free time traveling. In the rest of their free time, they spoil their dog and enjoy time outdoors.
Meg & Katrina
Meg Rapelye (right) is a full-time social work graduate student and resides in the Greater Richmond, VA area with her partner of 6 years, Katrina (center), and their daughter, Elly (left). Meg is a former active-duty Coast Guardsman and Katrina is currently serving in the Coast Guard, stationed at Ft. Lee, VA. The family’s favorite pastimes include traveling and outdoor activities.